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Imagine being Gary Staton

09/26/08 | by Carrie Pitzer - NDN Online Editor | Categories: Carrie Pitzer

Goodbye.

It’s one of the first words children learn. They wave and say “bye-bye,” and you smile because they’re finally starting to communicate, starting to comprehend.

But what if daddy says “bye-bye” for the last time — by dropping that 1-year-old and eight of his other children off at a hospital.

Gary Staton’s final “bye-bye” to his nine children may be one they never understand. Not the 1-year-old or even his 17-year-old.

It’s one I’m not sure I understand. Do you? Or, more importantly, could you do it?

More:

Imagine being Gary Staton for just one moment.

You just celebrated the miracle of a birth — your 10th child. Then your worst fears come true as your wife dies.

You’re left with 10 children. You’re left alone.

You decide to quit your job to take over the responsibilities of raising your children. But the bills don’t quit rolling it.

You’re overwhelmed, to say the least. You don’t know where to turn.

Maybe you start hearing about other parents in tough situations leaving their children at local hospitals. Maybe it’s something you’d thought about long before the outbreak of safe haven drop offs.

You have some help at home. Your 18-year-old graduated early, and she helps with the kids. But it’s not enough. It doesn’t pay the bills.

You’re afraid you’re going to lose your house. Your kids won’t only by motherless, they’ll be homeless, too.

You have to do something before that happens. So you leave them at a safe spot, a hospital. You know they’ll have a roof over their head. They’ll have food. Even if they won’t have a parent.

It’s impossible to fully comprehend what Staton was going through — losing his wife and then shouldering the weight of raising 10 children alone.

But if you imagine yourself in that position, what would you do? What help would you seek? Is a safe haven the best option in this situation?

For information on the fund set up to help the children, click here.

59 comments

Comment from: Jixer [Visitor] Email
Get a job and support them! Why/how did you have
10 children, knowing you couldn't afford it?
I feel sorry for the children, not the dad.
They not only lost their mother, now they've lost their home. Wow.
09/26/08 @ 11:02
Comment from: Coop [Visitor] Email
I can understand how that situation would make him think about leaving his kids, quite honestly though there is no way I could abandon my daughter. At the same time though I have 1 child and she is expensive, 9 kids? I cannot even imagine what was going through his mind leaving them at the hospital. This is just plain sad. I do not fault him, but yet I cannot say he took the right course of action either.
09/26/08 @ 11:29
Comment from: dperdue [Visitor] Email
My heart goes out to him and his children. I don't
know what I would do in his situation-losing my w
wife and not having a job with 10 children. I t amazes me that people can be critical at this time. Can a fund be started-I know there are people who would help
. I would do what I could. Where is their extended
family? I am lucky that I have many relatives who would help but, not everyone does.
09/26/08 @ 11:36
Comment from: Carrie Pitzer - NDN Online Editor [Member] · http://www.norfolkdailynews.com
At this point in time, no information has been released on a possible fund for his children or on his extended family. If that information becomes available, I will post it here for readers.
09/26/08 @ 11:41
Comment from: Pie [Visitor] Email
When the story first broke and there were very few details, I was pretty critical,too. After all, what kind of a loser abandons 9 children to be separated by the state? When the full story emerged, my heart went out to this poor man. I rushed to judge before facts were known and that was wrong. One should never presume to know what someone else is going through or dismiss another's personal pain without first walking a mile in their shoes. The father is still probably grieving his lost wife and feels no end of guilt for not being able to take care of their children. He quit his job, which was probably a huge mistake, but we all make mistakes. And his was made out of love and concern for his children -- it sounds like.

BTW, it is not up to us to decide how many children a family should/should not have. Other people's personal decisions are none of our business. And if you're griping about the burden of those children on taxpayers, just stop. We're all supporting Fannie and Freddie right now, first and foremost. A child is always a blessing.
09/26/08 @ 11:53
Comment from: Michaela [Visitor]
What about Social Security? If a child loses a parent, they are entitled to a Social Security payment until they're 18. That may not pay for everything, but that would certainly help. And a job, any job, would help, too. You asked for ideas for help in this situation, go to your Social Security office and ask.
09/26/08 @ 12:01
Comment from: Natasha [Visitor]
I wondered about Social Security, too. Wouldn't that be an option for financial assistance?
09/26/08 @ 12:20
Comment from: kbcooop [Visitor] Email
Its called contraception. No one in their right mind has 10 kids without some serious financial backing (i.e. Brad and Angelina). I blame the Catholic Church in part for this debacle, I think this problem is more wide spread than anyone thinks.
09/26/08 @ 12:40
Comment from: Kevin [Visitor] Email
Pie-

You are right, it's not up to us to decide how many kids a family should have. But if YOU have more kids than YOU can afford, then it's YOUR problem. My heart goes out to the kids, but how can you say his decision to have 10 kids is none of our business? His decision to give them up made the papers.....

09/26/08 @ 12:51
Comment from: a.r [Visitor] Email
Mr.Stanton and the kids all need help not just financial but also emotional. Where were the family members whom want to take the kids now, last month or the months prior. Mr. Stanton is grieving the loss of his wife, his job, his children and his future. He needs to get help with his grief. He also, needs to obtain a good job with an employer who will understand that he is the only caretaker of his family and will need time for confrences, school plays etc.. There are government programs for childcare,wick,foodstamps, subsides housing etc.. a social worker needs to get involved to help save this family.

STOP blaming him for having kids or saying he shouldn't have had them. That is the past. what % of our population was planned? Most of you weren't planned either. And what if they were planned? Are your goals and ideals the same as they were 18 years ago? S**t happens to us all that we never planned. Stop blaming and start helping. Blame won't help now.

09/26/08 @ 13:36
Comment from: Joe Faraldi [Visitor] Email · http://www.tripleshift.com
I think it's impossible for us NOT to be torn about the right and wrong aspects of this situation. One of the strongest things any of us can do is to try not to judge what Mr. Staton decided to do. I've heard stories about how some parents took the lives of their children during WWII so that they wouldn't have to live through the horror of war anymore. People get desperate and sometimes that results in doing things that we never thought possible. As a father of three who just went through a scare of possibly raising my kids alone, I can tell you that fearing what's coming next can be overwhelming. In our case, the Lord answered our prayers the way we had hoped. In Mr. Staton's case, I believe this is God's way of telling us that there are people who need someone to reach out and help. When we are truly concerned about our neighbor, evil can't win. Ever.
09/26/08 @ 13:38
Comment from: Jamie [Visitor]
All I can think during this is thank God he didn't harm them. If it comes down to hurting them or leaving them at that hosptial, thank God he left them. You can argue that his action are right or wrong, but no matter what, those children are safe. That's the most important thing right now.
09/26/08 @ 13:49
Comment from: rando [Member] Email
Don't stop at blaming the Catholic Church, kbcooop. Blame the Virgin Mary, too--as she obviously didn't believe in contraceptives, either. How irresponsible of her.
09/26/08 @ 13:55
Comment from: Bev [Visitor] Email
It's such a sad situatiom for all of them! He's probably greiving & overwhelmed by bills, etc. You would think that there is some kind of goverment help out there for them. I could never have given my kids gave. I was a single parent & it wasn't easy & I missed out on almost all of my kid's activities. I worked all the overtime that I could get & had a second job. Child support never came in either. But he has alot more kids than I had. Please keep us posted if you hear of anything else!
09/26/08 @ 13:58
Comment from: Grandma of 9 [Visitor] Email
Goes back to the old saying "anyone can be a
father, it takes a real man to be a Dad" He
would have qualified for assistance and with kids
in their late teens to help, he could have kept
his job and put the real young ones in daycare
like any other single parent to struggles. Women
do it all the time. I agree with why have so many
children with today's economy? Sounds like he
just took the easy way out; I hope his kids still
wish to see him when they get out on their own.
09/26/08 @ 13:58
Comment from: OmahaGrl [Visitor]
My heart and prayers go out to Mr. Staton and his children. I pray that this act was made with selfless intentions.

Those of you who accuse him of having too many children - God bless him and his wife for letting God's will guide their family.

And Grandma of 9 - I highly doubt "today's economy" was their concern 17 years ago.
09/26/08 @ 14:10
Comment from: Bev [Visitor] Email
I just read an article that said several family members have come forward & are being checked out to see if they qualify to be able to take in the children. He never asked any of them for help before he gave them away. It says he kept one child. That's worse than giving them all away.
09/26/08 @ 14:15
Comment from: Carrie Pitzer - NDN Online Editor [Member] · http://www.norfolkdailynews.com
Yes, a spokeswoman for the state Department of Health and Human Services said today that a number of family members have offered to help. Staff members are doing the required background checks in hopes of placing the children in the next few days. The spokeswoman says the father did not reach out to relatives for help before abandoning them.

The father did not leave his oldest daughter, who is 18, at the safe haven. Legally, she could have been left since she is under the age of 19. For those of you from out of state, Nebraska was the last state to legalize a safe have and did not specify a maximum age. Although intended for infants, most of the children left have been over the age of 11.

No safe havens were used before Sept. 13. Since then, at least 16 children have been left. Just four have been under the age of 11.
09/26/08 @ 14:19
Comment from: MomOfMany [Visitor]
The man loses a wife. He loved her. He is overwhelmed. We do not know what the family dynamics were. We do not know what kind of relationship he had with his extended family. Just because they are blood relatives does not mean they are people you want to have help with your kids--or that they would even WANT to help. One article stated that the maternal grandmother said, "He never asked for help. Had he, this would not have happened," she said. "They're good kids, and they don't deserve this. We won't abandon them like he did."
Not that I totally trust the journalism that is going on nowadays, but if the grandmother said that, does that sound like a lady who had a good relationship with her son-in-law? I don't think so. If the relatives were "close", why didn't they see that he may need help? Why did he need to ASK? It's easier to point a finger than lend a helping hand.
I think it is sad. The man is grieving the loss of his wife. Two years without one you love can seem like it was just yesterday that it happened.
I pray that this family can be reunited in time.



09/26/08 @ 14:40
Comment from: SD [Visitor] Email
700 billion dollars to bail out the banks.

Pennies to bail out families.
09/26/08 @ 14:49
Comment from: Pinda Kaas [Visitor] Email
He ain't no victim, I can tell you that. People will just do ANYTHING to avoid responsability.

I mean, why the hell would you have so much children if you can't afford it.

That's the problem with our human society, it teaches that procreating makes you some kind of hero with special priviledges.

Well, it does not! You don't have sex and then pop a baby and you're done.

It's a HUGE,SERIOUS responsability for most of your life.

Plan it accordingly and that's it. People just have to grow up...
09/26/08 @ 14:58
Comment from: Saddened [Visitor] Email
I think for Social Secuirity to take effect the Mom would have had to have worked in her lifetime and worked enough to be eligible. If she had this many kids I do not think she wokred much.
09/26/08 @ 14:59
Comment from: maraki [Visitor] Email
I don't know alot about this story. But it sounds to me like this is a special situation. (I'm not going to go into WHY he had a kid a year.) He had 10 kids and then his wife died. And he gave up his job. Of course he wasn't going to be able to make it. Commonsense says so. His eldest did what she could. I really think though that the kids should be kept together. The same government that provided the law that allows him to drop those 9 children off should step in and say ok this is an exceptional case: let's keep these people together, donate a house, or a job, or a babysitter. It will be better than sharing those kids out among foster homes....
09/26/08 @ 15:00
Comment from: KM [Visitor]
THANK GOD HE DIDN'T THROW THEM FROM A BRIDGE!!!
Like some have done in the past.

I have to commend him.

The guy was a WORKING man until his wife died, I am SURE he didn't have a PHD on how to use WELFARE.... All the negative people who do not sympathize with him, BLOW IT OUT YOUR A**.

Some of your comments are just mind boggling, it makes a person wonder, HOW you were raised?

I hope he gets his kids back.. :)

I am rooting for you Mr. Staton
09/26/08 @ 15:06
Comment from: Debcath [Visitor] Email
Good question about Social Security payments to the kids after the death of their mother a year ago. They've got some money due to them.
09/26/08 @ 15:14
Comment from: Beano [Visitor] Email
I had no idea how many commenters on this blog had never made a wrong choice or bad decision. And how many of you planned out each and every one of your children before having them, making sure you were first completely financially secure, as your own parents must have in order to teach you to pass such harsh judgement.

Stop bringing religion into this. All around the world, many cultures make the conscious decision to have a large family. And in Nebraska, this size of family is not common, but also it is not a total abberation from the norm. Stop being such a bunch of self-righteous haters.
09/26/08 @ 15:16
Comment from: amm [Visitor] Email
He was seen, by a neighbor, to be packing a suitcase into his car with the help of a woman, understood to be his new girlfriend.

Sounds like a GIGANTIC loser to me. He made the choice of becoming a parent at 18. Life isn't always warm fuzzies and sunshine; get a clue - everyone looses someone, but the choice to run away is not always the best, especially in his case.

Perhaps, if this country had real sex education, he wouldn't have been in this predicament. And, a woman's body was not made to support birthing 18 children in 18 years.

He is a sadist, for sure. And a mysongynist to boot. Oh, and tossing the kids away, who lost their mom forever, for another woman speaks volumes of the 'man'.

One can only wonder how big a loser this new woman is - standing by a man who tosses his motherless children out the door without even contacting his extended family for help.

Family is neither welfare nor phd-required; it's a simple question of help, which his children's maternal grandmother said he never asked for, as the certainly would have stepped up - entirely.

And I won't blow it out my a**; I am only reporting what I read online. He did not act responsibly; he had the help of his oldest - who, somehow, finished school a year early, specifically to help her father.

And, I also know many men who lost thier wives to nasty diseases, only to leave them widower's with several kids. None of them walked away from their children.


09/26/08 @ 15:35
Comment from: Kim [Visitor] Email
My question to "Grandma" is if she is so willing
to help now and as she says not abandon the kids
like Dad did , then where was all this Family
concern and observation during the past year or
two. Most true caring Families don't need to be
asked for help in such an obvious time of need.
Why does it take the World to be watching for
Family members to extend a helping hand.As most would know , during your periode of grief (which last a heck of alot longer than a year)you don't know or
realize what hope is.
09/26/08 @ 15:35
Comment from: Debcath [Visitor]
The mother of nine kids left died from a brain aneurysm 17 months ago, days after delivering the youngest child.
09/26/08 @ 16:05
Comment from: KM [Visitor]
That is the problem with some is they actually believe everything that they read. CONVICT before you have the WHOLE TRUTH. ( amm ) Sorry, you are just a typical simple mind. But, you know, in all fairness you could be reading things from precise news reports, but I will stay where I am at until proven otherwise.
09/26/08 @ 16:19
Comment from: Debcath [Visitor]
Where's Ty Pennington and his crew from Extreme Makeover Home Edition.. This family needs them.
09/26/08 @ 17:25
Comment from: Michaela [Visitor]
OMG! I was just thinking that. Maybe somebody should contact them. This family deserves a fresh start. Do you think they would do it?
09/26/08 @ 17:38
Comment from: the aunt [Visitor] Email
you know some people have it all wrong. When my sister died we were all there and we all helped him in every way possible. And when the state did that extra payment with the taxes and his taxes he got about 7.000.00 and that is when he quit his job and met his girlfriend which she, i believe, has 4 or 5 kids and costudy of none of them,
she had 2 for a visit and Gary took her and her two kids and told his kids they cant go because they are to expensive. they had just spent the weekend with a aunt and when he got them he did not say anything about turning them over. He waited for his oldest to go to work and then took them. If he would have told us about his plans they would have never been at hospital. All I feel for is the Kids, when a dad chooses a girlfriend over his own children what do you call him. His oldest daughter has done more for her sisters and brothers then he has.
09/26/08 @ 18:30
Comment from: God bless you [Visitor]
To the aunt: Thank you for speaking out. I think we've all been wondering what your side of the story is, especially after hearing about the girlfriend. All we've heard is his side. The pieces are starting to fit now.

Someone earlier asked about a fund for the children. Has one been set up? There are a lot of us out there who are really concerned about the children and would like to help.

God bless you and good luck. We'll be praying for you.
09/26/08 @ 22:04
Comment from: chiapet [Visitor] Email
Someone needs to investigate the wife's death. 10 kids in 17 years is enough to kill anyone. And anyone who has even one kid without having a home of their own to put them in is a sad example of parenting. He exploited his wife and now has abandoned his kids without any counsel or request for help from others. Beyond irresponsible. This man is a CRIMINAL. I looked up his age--he was born in 1972---he is not even 40 years old!
09/27/08 @ 00:28
Comment from: Michelle [Visitor]
See below. The family had previously shown the inability to care for the children they chose to have. Looks like maybe diminished mental capacity including understanding the difference between parenting and propogating (http://www.omaha.com/index.php?u_page=2798&u_sid=10443272). That March, police officers removed the children from the home. Court records detail the family's troubles: Officers found a broken septic tank and containers of human waste. The family had had no gas in the home since April 2003 and no water since June 2003. A judge ordered the parents to find decent housing, keep a clean home and get jobs. The children were returned home nine months later, but problems lingered. Neither parent held a steady job. More than once, HHS paid their rent when they received eviction notices and paid utility bills when the family was threatened with shut-off notices. Psychological examinations of the parents found that the mother expressed "distorted thinking." She resisted finding a job, ignored eviction notices, didn't help her husband with the cooking and cleaning — but still wanted to have more children.
09/27/08 @ 07:13
Comment from: Sue [Visitor]
Some of you posting are incredibly ignorant.

His wife never worked outside the house, so she paid into social security. Hence, no funds from SS.

Further, for all of you who have time to post on here, which of you has ever dared to offer to open the door to a single mom with a bunch of kids at the mall, or at the grocerty store? Or a single Dad with 9 kids, um, with a 1 year old how is he supposed to work when he hs no money for daycare and his wife, who provided hte daycare, unexpectedly dies?

Of course none of you think about these things any more than you think about babysitting for that overwhelmed single parent who needs a night off. You are too busy making judgments about how those people should have lived differently in the first place.
09/27/08 @ 18:04
Comment from: the aunt [Visitor] Email
Hello Its me again I have a internet store and If anyone wants to place a order off my site email me " For the Staton Kids" I will get 50% of the profit. And that will help with the relocation of the children and moving into a bigger house.
Thanks to all that want to help them.

www.mtnangelsgifts.com
09/29/08 @ 20:13
Comment from: the aunt [Visitor] Email
Sorry I ment to say i will give them 50% of all sales
09/29/08 @ 21:30
Comment from: Deb [Visitor]
Its been reported that anyone can send donations to any Wells Fargo Bank in the Omaha area.
10/01/08 @ 13:27
Comment from: Star [Visitor] Email
This is a great example of why people need to purchase
life insurance! When you have dependents,
especially 9 children, why would you not take the
responsility to make sure they were taken care
of in case something happened to one or both of
you? Its heartbreaking, but if they had been
responsible in this respect, he could have paid
the bills and taken care of his family for
many many years without the worry of financial
destruction.
10/08/08 @ 13:54
Comment from: bill g [Visitor] Email
once again the taxpayers have to help a moran. Who has 10 kids? How irresponsible; How did he plan on paying for them with/without a wife.
10/08/08 @ 18:55
Comment from: crazy thinking [Visitor]
Too bad bill g is a MORON. Who doesn't know how to spell???? Perhaps our fearless government leaders could all take a cut in pay to fund safe haven expenses. Better yet, let's cut back on education funding (especially for spelling teachers), because it's obviously ineffective, e.g, bill g's wondrous display of spelling mastery. Forget about the father, and think about the children. Nebraska is better off helping those children now before they become degenerates later in life. Poor, poor babies! A newborn without a mother might be the saddest introduction to this world. Who thinks bill g or anyone posting on this forum is making enough money to be considered a real taxpayer?
10/08/08 @ 20:37
Comment from: Missy [Visitor] Email
I grew up very poor and know what it is to struggle. If I could I would take them all in and help the father and the other child get back on their feet! Please don't be judgmental! My heart goes out to all of them!!
10/09/08 @ 07:15
Comment from: crazy thinking [Visitor]
I agree with Missy, and was only being sarcastic towards "bill g", who left a prior comment on this board. The father, Gary, obviously is distressed, and few people could think rationally during such a bad time.
10/09/08 @ 12:31
Comment from: Becki [Visitor]
"Do not judge a person until you have walked a mile in their shoes". Today's economic society is enough to make anyone make irrational decisions, let alone a man whom lost his wife and had ten kids to raise. I do not necessarily support what he did but maybe he felt enough love to let them go to another family that could provide a better life for them than he could. Right now we just need to pray for the kids safety and I ope that they are atleast placed in homes with atleast a brother or sister together. We are going through rough times right now, let's all stick together and help one another rather than always judging and bashing each other.
I wish the family the best of luck and hope the kids find a stable and loving home.
10/13/08 @ 22:12
Comment from: joe [Visitor] · http://www.infowars.com
Dude this article doesn't tell you that he chose to keep his 18 year old daughter....... ew!!!! for what???
wtf
10/15/08 @ 21:46
Comment from: Nancy [Visitor] Email
My aunt & uncle raised 11 children, while sometimes being out of work. The older kids help with the younger kids, that's how its done. I don't feel sorry for the father, I feel sorry for the children - what kind of lesson is he teaching them "when the going gets tough - give up"?
10/16/08 @ 11:30
Comment from: Someone who knows! [Visitor]
The father would rather chase his girlfriend around & spend his money on her then on his kids! I agree with the aunt, how is the girlfriend to help him with his 9 kids when she cant take care of her 5 muchless herself!!! The food stamps he got from the state was being spent on the girlfriend, to provide her with food. Last I knew those where to be used for food for the kids & the money he did have got spent on her & their drinking habits!!!!!!!!
10/17/08 @ 17:58
Comment from: vicky [Visitor]
Anybody can say anything they want about him but until you're in his shoes, you don't know how you'd react. I say good for him for making a safe choice for his kids and not shooting them execution style like some parents have in our great Nation.
10/23/08 @ 19:08
Comment from: vicky [Visitor]
Why won't "the aunt" give 100% of her sales to help her nieces and nephews? Sounds like another nut case trying to profit off other people's grief. "Buy a t-shirt for $10 and $1 will go to aid Katrina victims; buy a bracelet a a PORTION of the proceeds will go to fight against cancer..."
10/23/08 @ 19:26
Comment from: cj [Visitor]
I often wonder if people can read when they put
stupid comment on here. First off the guy had a
job, but when the wife died who takes care of them
and it wasn't a problem until the wife died. I'm
not saying I would do that, I know I wouldn't but
I also know that CPS would have probably been in
his tail sooner or later, with him trying to make that situation work
11/21/08 @ 11:53
Comment from: the wittness [Visitor] Email
I sawn everything what happen there since i was born. Its rediculous what some people say. Articals do not tell the truth all the times. Cause that man did have a girlfreind she was bipolor so it made him more sad. But before he met her he was taking donations after they met it went all wrong he started to go out with her more than the kids. The reason he take the oldest one cause she has a job. And who would take an old teen to the hostpital? The day he took the kids to hostpital he made the kids be cleaned after he got them clean the 4 oldest rode the city bus and drove the lil ones to the hostpital and before you it he came out by himself
12/15/08 @ 16:39
Comment from: A cousin! [Visitor] Email
Im a cousin to the nine children... and it breaks my heart to have people say those things about my family. To those who's prayers and hearts that have been with us in this trouble time I thank you! I would also like to say thank-you to everyone that has helped us.
I am 19 years old... and I help my grandmother raise these children. Even though we only have seven kids... it's hard coming home from work and cook, clean, give baths, and do homework with them. I understand what my late cousin's husban was going through. But they are a joy to have... to see their faces light with pride when they learn to read or spell or help me cook dinner or say words, and for people to say he shouldn't have them, it makes me so mad and it breaks my heart.
No one know's the welfare system by heart how should he know... and he was too poor to hire a lawer... so what does that leave him? Family? My family has help out as much as they can... none of us knew what he was going to do next! We aren't mind readers we don't know what goes on in his head.
As for the 18 year-old... she's been staying at my great-grandmother's old house! We all have been meeting with all the kids... all ten of them and they are beening regular kids... they know what's going on and what u people say about them... come on now they aren't that stupid!!
03/10/09 @ 18:56
Comment from: Trouble [Visitor]
If you can't keep your d**k in your pants you must pay the consequences. How DARE he impregnate another woman after ABANDONING his children! Castrate that man IMMEDIATELY!
06/30/09 @ 14:47
Comment from: Concerned tax payer [Visitor]
this moron is about to have twins. i've heard that the gene pool is being filled with low iq people but not this low. this person is an idiot who should have been sterilized a long time ago. i believe that the parents and children should starve if the parents do not have the intellectual capacity to figure out how expensive it is to take care of a child along with the emotional burden. it ain't my problem and i should not have to foot the bill for every cretin who cannot keep it in his pants.
07/01/09 @ 07:52
Comment from: azmamaof4 [Visitor]
This is positively heart breaking!

Number 1, I do NOT feel for the father, he made his choices, who drives their kids and just drops them off and LEAVES? NOT one who is a responsible parent, he thought enough to quit his job, but when he figured out that that may have been a poor choice, he did NOT go back to work, he decided to ABANDON his children!

Number 2, I am of the belief at this time that being the man that he is, he did the best thing he could for his kids, they are BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM! HIS CHILD OR CHILDREN ON THE WAY w/his GIRLFRIEND SHOULD BE REMOVED FROM THE HOME IMMEDIATELY AFTER THE BIRTH! THEY SHOULD NOT BE ABLE TO GO HOME WITH THIS MAN OR WOMAN!

Number 3, the State should garnish his wages to aide in caring for HIS CHILDREN!

THIS MAN IS NOT FIT TO RAISE ANY CHILDREN!

"When people show you who they are believe them". He is showing us who he is, and he is NOT A FATHER!
07/01/09 @ 07:58
Comment from: JC [Visitor]
This guy is what is wrong with the U.S. in general and some of your comments prove it! He is not to be pitied, but rather belittled. He obviously understands the concept of what actions bring a child into this world; if you are having difficulties supporting them then take actions to prevent another child. This thread is almost a year old. He now is expecting twins with his girlfriend. The cost to the state for his children last year was $995,000 based on the most recent data (June 2009). He is worthless. He does not benefit society. He is a pariah. Continue to be politically correct and not hold any of our citizens accountable for their actions and watch what happens to the U.S. economy. Tough decisions are ahead and we must as a society, ensure that aid programs are not abused. This requires that people be accountable for their actions. In short, I am disgusted at this whole situation. This is a boy, not a man. He should never be allowed to be called a FATHER. His responsibility as a parent is to shield his children from hardship as best he can, not add to it.
07/01/09 @ 17:36
Comment from: KB [Visitor]
When I was 25, my husband walked out on me and our two children. Leaving us with an apartment full of bills. I didn't work because child care was so expensive and now I had to find a job and take care of two small children, with no car! I never once thought about abandoning my children. I did what I had to do, asked for help from the government until I could get on my feet, which I did in a year but it was still hard. We took the local bus everywhere, I had to get cabs when I wanted to grocery shop. I had to count pennies and sometimes went hungry so the kids would have enough to eat. Frankly it was hell, but I would never have given up my children, I even fought my deadbeat ex for custody. I figured if he could abandon them once, he would do it again. Deadbeats like this never change and he will probably abandon this new girlfriend eventually. I think he should be neutered to protect future unborn children.
07/06/09 @ 15:15

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